Posts Tagged ‘Love’

50 Reasons I’m Thankful for my Husband

March 9, 2015

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 50 Reasons I’m Thankful for my Husband 

Eighteen years ago I said “I do” to the most wonderful man I have ever met. I would do it all over again. We’ve had our share of ups and downs, joys and heart breaks, but our love and faith in God has sustained us. Today, I thought I would let you know why I love my husband so much. I pray blessings on your marriage, as you read about mine.

  1. I’m grateful he shares my faith in Jesus Christ.
  2. I am grateful to have a teammate as we face the challenges of life together.
  3. And reminisce over the life we have built together.
  4. I’m grateful he chose me to be his wife.
  5. I’m grateful he is an excellent father.
  6. And provider.
  7. And comforter.
  8. I’m grateful he’s good at things I’m not, like fixing computers and knowing what to do with…

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“Death with dignity” or “Useless Eaters”? Power and paternalism says “Go ahead and die!”

May 27, 2013

The title to the article found at the following link is a propaganda piece itself and a tendentious accusation, and the author is not stupid. She KNOWS that it is not true, because without even checking other articles, we know that she accuses pro-lifers of religious motivation. I don’t know, maybe she switches personalities depending on the issue. Her title: “Assisted dying isn’t contested on religious grounds – it’s about power, paternalism and control”.

http://www.newstatesman.com/politics/2013/05/assisted-dying-isnt-contested-religious-grounds-its-about-power-paternalism-and-con

On that site, they claim that the lay people of almost all religious self-identifying persuasions favor “assisted suicide”, and they point out that the clergy and other leaders oppose. They love to use a majority opinion when it suits their purpose, while saying a judge is “legally” correct in pointing out that a poll majority is no basis for law, they immediately contradict the concession by making it still sound like an elite imposition on the majority.

Polls have lost credibility a long, long time ago. Especially for making any argument for anything. I have been polled myself. The wording of the question, asking leading “questions” to change the mind of the respondent. They inflicted the same question upon me in three different ways in that poll. The “surveyor” only stopped because I stopped the questioning. They assured me my answers would count anyway.

Did they count my responses in their “results”? I’ll never know, and neither will you. The results of that poll were publicized in the obvious direction the pollsters were supposed to evoke, but they are usually useless. They certainly are real arguments for nothing at all. “Approval ratings” are also bogus, believable only when there isn’t too much at stake. Not only useless, they are in essence frauds meant to play with the public mind. Propaganda tools.

I do not have a big clergy salary or position, work as easily reporting to woman bosses as to men bosses, I hate control as a mostly anarcho-capitalist  libertarian, and I don’t think anybody should have cultural sanction to kill another person. That’s finality in the control category, killing somebody, and that’s exactly the problem that inflicts so many PATHOLOGICAL killers. No emotion at killing somebody.

Now we have advocates of “mercy” killing.  They do not deny their emotions, but here comes the “for your own good” rationale beating down on common sense.

Oh, but that stage is maybe to follow. The powers that be that are pushing this theme are not yet going to admit that their real goal is the elimination of what Hitler called “useless eaters”. For now it’s a “compassionate” [sic] concern for the desires of the suffering.

For now, they say they only want to “help” those who are of “sound mind” who want to go. Presumably who also suffer from terminal disease. That’s their main argument anyway.

Kid you not. “Help them” die instead of talking them out of suicide. Hello? Rational logic calling! Come back!

In this “Brave New World” drowning in drugs and the commercialization of pleasure and hedonist philosophies, instead of improving techniques for improving the lives of the suffering, they want you to think of just letting them die. What a psych trick to say “Death with dignity” rather than a “poor quality of life”. There is no “dignity” in either killing yourself, and there is a lot less dignity in helping someone you say you love to kill themselves. Or instead of talking them out of it, nod your head, knowing that it is your partner’s pride that does not want to be dependent for life.

The compassionate thing is to make them know that their lives are important to you, making them know that they are more useful to you alive than dead.

(Meantime, many of the same powers that be advocate dependency on strangers from government for the poor).

Not the new twist in the psych of that title. They added a new Doublespeak to the Newspeak dictionary, calling it “assisted dying” instead of “assisted suicide”. Suicide has a bad name. Suicide is a bad name. That’s because suicide is a very bad thing.

If you kill somebody else, it’s called murder. If you kill yourself instead, that’s called suicide. To some people that makes all the difference. But it is still somebody killing somebody. If it’s bad to kill somebody, it’s bad to encourage them or help them kill themselves.

But in the real world of rational discussion, the thing that makes it bad for somebody to be killed at the hand of another, is just as tragic a death if somebody is killed at their own hand.

The worst aspect of this is the degenerate drop of moral pretense here. While arguing in moral terms, the Powers That Be that want this expose themselves in that they show that they care not about life over death. They have other plans for you.

This is Pandora’s box. Their game is over, their gig is up, it’s going to start winding down. There will be some blowback from the Powers That Be that want to hold the power of life and death over the rest of us. People are beginning to wake up to their oppression, in spite of their tendency to hide in the shadows and behind secret societies, old boys’ networks and the like.

This paternalistic ruling clique wants us to believe that we the people have demanded the “right” to kill ourselves and get a doctor to turn upside down help us die instead of help us live. But there is a twist to this, just like with a “woman’s right to choose”. With a “woman’s right to choose”, it really becomes an invitation for a man’s “right to choose”.

A few women do jump into hedonistic behaviors and abortion is their “safety” net for avoiding motherhood (so they’ve been told). But nature tells them in the back of the mind and in the region of the heart that having a baby in the womb makes them a mother. The desire is there and the “Silent No More” movement of women who publicly confess and denounce their own abortions is a demonstration of this, along with the fact shown in surveys of the symptoms of post-abortion syndrome.

In one pro-abortion movie, in fact, it made light humor of one young girl bragging that she had told FIVE different guys that it was their baby so she could get the money not only for the abortion but a trip to Hawaii. Real funny.

A few women do jump into hedonistic behaviors and abortion is their “safety” net for avoiding babyhood (so they’ve been told). But surveys have shown that in the majority of cases, the women “choosing” abortion did it under pressure of a father, a mother, an uncle, or the boyfriend.

So it is a lie that abortion is simply a “choice” for women. It has made them more vulnerable to the demands of men, in fact. It has added pressure for them to approach sexuality in the same way as men. The long-term blowback is felt by the older feminists who yearn for motherhood. Connie Chung is one of the most famous of these, not exactly a “feminist”, but one who bought into the myth that a woman could have a fulfilling career same as a man without the naggings of motherhood. Too late, she sought motherhood. It is not paternalistic to understand this.

Denying your nature, denying who you are, denying the physical and natural testimony of your physiology, this is not a simple matter of “choice” or “law” or “decree”.

There is one more road to hell here, whether you want to think it’s paved with good intentions or not.

In a moral society, we expect doctors to heal us when we’re sick, alleviate our pain, and help us avoid death as much as possible. Doctors enter the profession with this orientation in mind. Part of the horrors of the Axis powers during World War II was the turning of this on its head. Medical knowledge was applied to death instead.

To legalize this will end the universal expectation of doctors. Some have already been indoctrinated by the fact of death in the baby-killing business, as in the Gosnell case in Philadelphia. Not even playing the race card saved him from the horrified reaction even from the partial-birth abortion advocates. Unsaid in the coverage was the fact that now President Obama uttered one of his few voiced opinions in the Illinois State Senate against strengthening the penalties for the kind of things that Gosnell did as a matter of course.

May God save us from this pro-death propaganda. That’s what it is.

I call heaven and earth to record this day against you, that I have set before you life and death, blessing and cursing: therefore choose life, that both thou and thy seed may live: – Deuteronomy 30:19

 

 

Movie “No Greater Love”: One thing missing

March 3, 2013
No Greater Love (2010 film)

No Greater Love (2010 film) (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

 

The writers of this movie wanted to lift up the idea of lifetime monogamous marriage and the idea of forgiveness. Of course this always gets into the romance of it too. But they did one thing wrong in the script.

 

They set it up so that after ten years of abandoning the husband with the child, the husband had found another woman who really loved him. When the ex-wife shows up, he breaks up with the new love and she is devastated. None of the Christians in the context are concerned about her at all. And that is the end of her in the whole thing.

 

That is a real shame. Sure it complicates the plot, but if you want to show Christian love in a movie about Christian love, marriage, matters of the heart and hurt, you go into that too.

 

 

 

 

Love and Health: Romantic Love vs. Unselfish Love

February 4, 2012
I once was lost but now I'm found...

I once was lost but now I'm found... (Photo credit: ~intoxicating flutter~)

The Society for Personality and Social Psychology has made it official, Romantic love has a lot to do with one’s health, for better and for worse, and as I knew, mostly for the better!

The Many Unexpected Sides of Love:

http://www.spsp.org/?page=PressRelease_28Jan12

San Diego, January 28, 2012 – Love can bring out both the best and the worst in people. Which way it turns depends on the best way to protect the relationship, say researchers studying the evolution of romantic love.

“Love is not merely sexual desire nor a unique emotion but rather a motivational drive-like state,” says Arthur Aron of State University of New York at Stony Brook, whose research involves the use of fMRI brain scans in understanding love. New research, being presented today at a conference of personality and social psychologists in San Diego, CA, is shedding light into the role romantic love plays in the formation, development, and maintenance of close relationships.

Of course the “positive side” of love in this article does the usual homage to the old pagan idea of human descent from animals, “from an evolutionary perspective”. Whenever they stick that in somewhere, just remember, they’re simply talking about something as a survival advantage, or some usually positive effect for the individual.

But here again, the researchers make a mistake common to everyone, that is, they include feelings of jealousy with those of love. They used the word “love” without clarifying that they were not talking about charitable love at all, that is, the sacrificial love that manifests in works of sacrifice and charity.

The green monster of jealousy that sometimes, in some people, results in the worst kind of NOT-love, is one of the reasons that it is best to subjugate the romantic kind of love under the pure kind of love, the sacrificial love, the giving kind, the sharing kind of love, God’s kind of love.

That’s something else that was missing in the discussion there. When the negative aspects of romantic love (“emotional attachment”) are accentuated, I’d bet that the benefits of romantic love are reduced or lost altogether.

Love is a big word, of course, and there is a relationship between feelings of attachment to a person and the possessive emotions that come with it for almost all people in various degrees.

But there are different “kinds” of love, or phenomena for which we use the word. Romantic love is one.

But the most important kind of love there is, is the sacrificial kind, the “altruistic” kind, the kind that motivated Jesus to lay down his life for us and go through his moments of agony for us, and to share resurrection with us.

This is the kind that motivated Patrick the Englishman to return to the land of his slavers and share the love of Christ with them and make that his life’s work.

Real love is the kind that motivated the Irish monks and the English monks to preserve old classics for future generations’ benefit, and to share their knowledge with the continent at Charlemagne’s’ invitation. It’s what motivated them to travel to East Europe and to Russia to share the message of love and eternal life.

Unselfish love is what motivated the earliest Christians to go where unwanted babies were thrown away by their mothers when Rome was still under the sway of its pagan religions and pagan gods, and to gladly take them in when new mothers learned that they could leave these babies at the doorstep of a Christian family instead of sacrifice them.

This kind of love is what is meant by LOVE they neighbor as thyself, a mandate that is self-enforcing in the hearts and minds and actions of those who actually believe in Love thy God with all thy heart, with all thy soul and with all thy mind, because if you actually love God in this way, the love for your neighbor will flow naturally and the world will see it.

That kind of love, the love of Christ, is what drove “Mother Theresa” to bring in the dying homeless off the streets and gutters in India, and care for them and comfort them in their last few days in the flesh.

Real love, God’s kind of love, cares for the poor and the infirm and the captives.

How about let’s have a Declaration of Love, and spread the word till we get a Revolution of Love?

A Love Revolution!